Don’t you just love some days like they were meant to happen to you as if they were written in the stars just for your existence? When I say “some days”, I mean, when you don’t let any thing bother you, you let all the negativity slide and have a smile on your face. Somedays, there might be a reason to it, something which is exciting like getting a promotion or buying a house or maybe even proposing to your loved one, these are the usual things that are meant to buy you happiness, aren’t they?
But no, hold on! I’m not talking about these kind of days. I mean, those times when, despite these extra ordinary things happening to your life, you chose to be happy. A day where you just don’t care about achieving these milestones but just wake up smiling? Don’t you just cherish such days?
C’mon, who am I kidding? Do we wake up happy or does one have to prioritise being happy? Well, the reason you love such days are because they’re so rare in nature. Honestly, I think we’re conditioned to be happy only when we reach a certain goal, be it immediate or long term. And, in the race of reaching there, we let ourselves become very robot like, you know? Feeling emotions to an extent that they disappear in the passing moments and so, only when you reach that particular goal, you experience ‘happiness’.
“We’re In Coffins Before Literally Being In One.”
This is where my issue with ‘conditioning‘ begins! In it’s most basic form, to be taught how to experience an emotion. I think, happiness is within us, like any other emotion. So, a day you wake up smiling is probably the day you’ve let yourself find joy within yourself by just being content. Now, is this so hard? Can this not be a routine for us? Maybe not. “Maybe not”, because of the conditions we’ve grown up with.
How does one break that? Surely, one can’t do it, the moment they decide to, it’s a process. A process of figuring out how the world around us, shaped us. A classic ‘nature vs nurture‘ case taking place here! In this case, ‘nature’ is experiencing everything that stems through us. Nurture is what the society has been telling us to experience. So, when one understands that ‘nurture’ is meant to dictate how and when you can feel a certain emotion, the process of connecting to ‘nature’ begins.
And, when the process starts, you question not just feeling ‘happy’ when you gain something, you doubt everything you’ve been given knowledge about, all your life. No matter how much you believe in the importance of the learnings that comes through society, you’ll reach this point. Probably, it’ll happen when you feel everything you’ve picked up, is nothing but chaos that the world itself, doesn’t understand. At that phase, you’ll want to connect deeper into yourself, just for the sake of finding some contentment which ultimately, will lead to happiness.
Do I manifest this? I want to say ‘YES’, but let’s just be honest for a second, I’m not sure. Most of the days, I worship the hardships into reaching my goals to make some sense out of all this or just to be ‘happy’. However, on some days, I know that I can escape this race by just focusing on own my believes, looking a tad bit deeper into my nature, being more about my internal mechanisms. Let’s just say that everyday is a struggle, wanting and trying to unlearn. Though today, I chose to be happy without even being close to my targets. However, where do you stand? Have you even stared to question your basics?